Choice is a Function of Awareness!

The problem with communication … is the illusion that it has been accomplished.

George Bernard Shaw

The more aware you are about what is happening for you (on the inside); the more options you will have to be responsive in your communication and interactions with others.  We all have triggers that cause us to automatically react – like when pushed or attacked, we automatically shift into fight or flight mode to find ourselves pushing back (defending, attacking, etc).  Simply said, we all have blind spots as it’s not easy to see ourselves objectively.
We also have personal meanings attached to certain words and phrases.  Just yesterday, I was speaking with someone about being responsible for what happens in one’s life; and I specifically said “I’m not talking about fault and blame which is how I believe people think about responsibility; I’m talking about standing in the space of having personal power in the face of any circumstance”.  He says to me, “It’s not your fault when something in your life happens that is completely out of your control.”   Initially, it was somewhat of a circular conversation as his meaning of “responsibility” is fault and blame and mine is personal power.  Adding to that, there is an “occurring” or experience of each other in the conversation.  It occurred to him as someone who manipulates words to serve my agenda and my occurring was he was closed minded and wasn’t willing to listen to me.  What do you see as the trajectory of this conversation with those dynamics at play?
I had the awareness to refrain from reacting to my occurring of not being listened to.  This gave me choice inside of our conversation such that we landed in a great place with deeper understanding about ourselves and each other.
We naturally take a position when listening even though our mind has the capacity to see multiple perspectives.  Some common positions we automatically take are good or bad, right or wrong, I like this or I don’t like this, I like them or
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I don’t like them.
A great way to increase your self-awareness is to notice which position you take in any given situation.  It’s in the noticing of your position that you actually loosen its grip on you allowing you to be responsive rather than reactive.  In other words, rather than reacting, you are enabling “choice” in how to interact and express yourself.
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Trudy

This conversation isn't going well…

A couple of weeks ago, I was leading a team conversation to improve listening skill and expand ability to ask big questions.  And it wasn’t going well, and; further to that I knew it wasn’t going well.  What I know to do in the face of things not going well is to stop and check in with people to see what’s happening for them.  Acknowledging the experience people are having, including myself is the first step in being able to alter the trajectory we are on.  The authenticity of expressing “this doesn’t seem to be working for you and it isn’t working for me” enables an opening for a “new” conversation.  It creates a space that frees people up to be “real” and share their experience.  When you recognize your need to alter the course you are on because you see it isn’t going to end the way you want it to, the following actions will enable you to alter that course:

  •         Check in with yourself and other(s) to understand how the experience is occurring
  •         Review purpose, goals and objectives for the conversation
  •         Ask questions and listen for what’s possible
  •         Let silence do the heavy lifting

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Trudy

Step Aside

ID-10035554Every day, we’re faced with a number of choices. One of those is how we perceive the different situations we’re faced with daily. Often we’re so determined to barrel ahead that we not only get in the way of others, we get in our own way.
When we take the time to look at what will support the greater good in a situation, we allow ourselves to expand, and in doing so, we also give others the opportunity to expand. When we’re busy trying to maintain control, we keep others and ourselves small.
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Face the fear
Why? Often it’s out of fear. Fear that if we let go, we’ll lose something. But what if we chose trust instead of fear and let ourselves be open to what the universe might bring us. All of us experience fear, but it’s in moving through the fear we expand, and provide the opportunity for greatness.
Reach for greatness
We can experience the fear and acknowledge it, but continue to move forward into the endless possibilities. The alternative is to stay small and in doing so, run the risk of not living out our purpose. We are all capable of so much, but few of us reach our potential.
“I learned that courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
What if you got out of the way and let things unfold as they should?
Ask yourself these questions:
1.  In what ways are the conversations you are having with yourself keeping you small?  What conversation(s) would you have to give up about yourself to grow your existing greatness?
2.  How do you think others would describe you? Chances are they can see your greatness even when you can’t.
You might be amazed at what happens! Another great quote from Nelson Mandela ~
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
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Resources:
Books:
The Right Questions – Debbie Ford
Bookclips: An extraordinary person is an ordinary person who makes extraordinary choices.  Extraordinary people hold bigger visions for themselves.  They make choices consistent not only with the highest expression of themselves; also the greater good of the world.
We can’t be traveling east and west at the same time.  We are going either one way or the other.
Silence – Christina Feldman
Bookclips:  Silence is what frees us to listen well, to live with authenticity and to discover wholeness within ourselves. 
It takes immense courage to be willing to meet ourselves in silence. In silence we are visible ourselves. 
Articles: 
Challenging Negative Self-Talk: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2010/challenging-negative-self-talk/
Living Up to Your Greatness: http://www.poweredbyintuition.com/2011/06/12/how-to-overcome-fear-and-live-up-to-your-greatness/

Success and What It Really Means To You

ID-10041397What is success, really? Perhaps your beliefs about success are based on society’s definition and/or what you were brought up to believe. Is success for you money, prestige, public recognition…or could that be someone else’s view of success?
For many of us, our definition of success is based on a belief system resulting from past conditioning. How you define success may actually be holding you and others back. If you were to take the time to consider your present beliefs about success, you might see the ‘success’ you desire is being achieved at a high cost. The price might be paid in other areas of your life such as relationships, family or health, a cost many of us pay for our achievements.
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Go deep
Take some time to reflect on success and what it means to you. What is REALLY important to you in your life? Is that where most of your attention is being focused? Family may be the most important thing in the world to you, but you may be spending most of your waking hours at work. If so, are you truly successful?
“A successful life is one that is lived through understanding and pursuing one’s own path, not chasing the dream of others.”  -Chin-Ning Chu
Reflecting on your beliefs about success may lead to redefining it. This may be a turning point—where you decide not to let others define it for you. No matter what we’ve achieved, many of us have a natural yearning for something ‘more in our lives’—the desire to be more, do more and have more. We may know what to do, but we aren’t taking the necessary actions to get there—to be healthier, to spend more time with our families, to take our careers to the next level. Often, we get in the way of our desires.
Get out of your own way
In his book “What Got You Here Won’t Get you There”, Marshall Goldsmith, one of the five most respected executive coaches by Forbes and a top-10 executive educator by the Wall Street Journal addresses the fundamental problems that often come with success, naming the 20 habits that hold us back from the top.
You – Reinvented
Perhaps it’s time to start the conversation. What do you want out of life? Really want out of life? This can be an opportune time to work with a coach to dig deep to get at your beliefs and explore them. And perhaps to redefine them.
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BOOKS:
What Got You Here Won’t Get You There – Marshall Goldsmith
Bookclips: The only natural law I’ve witnessed in three decades of observing successful people’s efforts to become more successful is this: People will do something-including changing their behavior-only if it can be demonstrated that doing so is in their own best interests as defined by their own values.
Bookclips: Take a look at work. Why are you there? What keeps you coming back day after day? Is it any of the big four-money, power, status, popularity-or is it something deeper and more subtle that has been developed over time?
Success Intelligence – Robert Holden
Bookclips: Relationships are the heart of success. How true is this for you?
Bookclips: If you cannot see yourself being successful at something, you will probably talk yourself out of trying. Or, if you can see you have a talent for something, you may find all sorts of inner strength and external help. All your decisions are based on what you see you are capable of and, also, what you think you deserve.
Resources/Articles:
What is Success – A Better Definition: http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/what-is-success-better-definition.html
Questions that Create Success: http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/10-questions-that-create-success.html
Steve Jobs explains the rules for success: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KuNQgln6TL0

Would you rather be right or be happy?

Think back to times when you’ve been busy defending your position, telling your story, building the case for why you are right and the person or situation is wrong.
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What’s this all about?
In a word – Control. People who need to be right may be insecure; if they get validation from others, it means they’re in control. When they’re in control, they can make things turn out the way they want to happen.
The illusion
It’s all a myth. Being in control is an illusion. When we believe we can controls things, nothing bad will happen. But you can’t control people—you can’t make them do what you want them to do all the time. Being in a struggle for control is a zero sum game.
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Black and white thinking
Try to live in the gray. There are thousands of shades of gray on the spectrum from black to white. Each of them provides a much richer telling of a story that is rarely as clear as this or that. Right vs. happy is more about the desire to be in control.
Our egos react when we feel we’re being attacked. We get on the bandstand with a megaphone or respond with a sledgehammer. All this does is help to build resentments. We dwell on the negativity, giving up valuable real estate in our minds to situations as we replay them over and over again. And we bring those negative emotions into new relationships, keeping us stuck in the past.
Here are some of the ways we behave when we’re stuck in this unhealthy pattern of needing to be right:
The Daily Victim. We wake up each day and rehearse the role of victim when we’re unwilling to forgive, holding tight to past hurt and resentment, replaying it in our minds repeatedly. This automatic replay reinforces the ego’s illusion and strengthens our victim perception. Eventually we identify so closely with the role of victim that we begin to establish that dynamic in many or all our relationships.
The Angry Boxer: When the ego feels attacked, its immediate response is to fight back. The ego believes in fear and in a cruel, merciless world Its always on the alert for another attack. Defensive thoughts and energy develop into a wicked cycle, creating more negative experiences.
The Shut-Down and Protected: The ego convinces this person to isolate from the world for fear of being hurt again. The result is living small and evading all potential conflict by avoiding intimacy completely.
Letting go of the need to be right and surrendering to forgiveness is the only way out of this nightmare. If we truly want to enjoy relationships, we need to respect others have a right to their opinion and there is more than one perspective in any situation.
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Choosing happiness is a full-time job
There are always as many choices as there are pros and cons and multiple views in every experience.  Allow yourself to see choice and then choose the best one:

  • Let go of your need to be right.
  • Stop playing the blame game – although a natural human being reaction, it leaves you powerless.
  • Be willing to be responsible for the square you are standing on in your life and in relationships.
  • Remember, our view is formed by a number of thoughts that create an experience in which we live as “the” reality.  There are a number of ways to view any situation.
  • Ask yourself, “What is it that I’m not seeing?”
  • Be willing and open to think differently and therefore see another view
  • Be compassionate – a willingness to see that you and they are doing the very best with all that is known

 “Admitting you were wrong about something isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of objectivity and maturity” – Unknown
“There are no facts, only interpretations.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
Some questions to ask yourself

  1. When in the middle of a conversation or situation, how often are you willing to try on other perspectives that may give you a clearer view?
  2. Where do you play the blame game? How does it impact your life?

BOOKS:
Leadership Wisdom – Robin Sharma
Bookclips: My role as a leader was really about freeing people’s strengths and allowing them the freedom to develop themselves….keys to this: keep my promises, listen aggressively, being consistently compassionate and becoming fanatically honest.
Reclaiming Higher Ground – Lance H.K. Secretan
Bookclips: Vince Lombardi was not a fan of fear and intimidation.  He led with love creating exhilaration within his team.  He coached them to greatness with love!
Resources/Articles:
Changing Your Perspective: http://www.thechangeblog.com/seven-creative-ways-to-change-your-perspective/
Changing Perspective to Solve Problems: http://timmilburn.com/5-questions-that-will-change-your-perspective-not-your-problem
The Cost of Being Right: http://www.douglasmagazine.com/resources/46-miscellaneous/91-the-huge-cost-of-being-right.html
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Leadership & EQ

What is emotional intelligence (EQ)?
ID-10098481EQ is a set of emotional and social skills that influence our self-perception and the ways in which we express ourselves, build and maintain relationships, cope with challenges and use emotional information in an effective and meaningful way.  EQ is the skill set that helps you deal successfully with the human dimension of business. It also impacts how well you utilize people to produce results and create a fulfilling work environment.
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Why should you care about EQ?  
The single greatest influence on whether your people stay or leave is their relationship with you. It affects the level at which they are engaged or if they just do enough to get by.
EQ skills are the ingredients for “real” leadership.
It’s often not the smartest people who are the most successful or most fulfilled in life. There are many people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially awkward and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual intelligence (IQ) isn’t enough on its own to be successful in life. Your IQ can help you get into university, but it’s your EQ that will help you to manage the stress and emotions when facing your final exams.
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Emotional intelligence affects:

  • Your performance at work. Emotional intelligence can help you navigate the social complexities of the workplace, lead and motivate others, and excel in your career.
  • Your physical health. If you’re unable to manage your stress levels, it can lead to serious health problems. Uncontrolled stress can raise blood pressure, suppress the immune system, increase the risk of heart attack and stroke, contribute to infertility, and speed up the aging process. The first step to improving emotional intelligence is to learn how to manage and relieve stress.
  • Your mental health. Uncontrolled stress may also impact your mental health, making you vulnerable to anxiety and depression. If you are unable to understand and manage your emotions, you’ll also be vulnerable to mood swings
  • Your relationships. An inability to form strong relationships can leave you feeling lonely and isolated. By understanding your emotions and how to control them, you’re better able to express how you feel and understand how others are feeling. This allows you to communicate more effectively and build healthier and stronger relationships, both at work and in your personal life.

There are four attributes that make up EQ:

  • Self-awareness – You are able to recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior; you know your strengths and weaknesses, and you have self-confidence.
  • Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on your commitments, and are able to adapt to changing circumstances.
  • Social awareness – You can understand and recognize the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
  • Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, can communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.

Experts say…out of control emotions make smart people stupid.
How to raise your emotional intelligence
All information going to the brain comes through our senses, and when this information is overwhelmingly stressful or highly emotional, our instincts take over and our reaction will be limited to the flight, fight, or freeze response. To access the wide range of choices and an ability to make good decisions, we need to be able to control our emotions and bring them into balance at will.
Emotions and memory are also strongly linked. By learning to use the emotional part of your brain as well as the rational, you can expand your range of choices when it comes to responding to a new event, but you’ll also factor emotional memory into your decision-making process. This can help with preventing you continually repeating earlier mistakes.
To improve your emotional intelligence—and your decision-making abilities—you need to understand and control the emotional side of your brain. How?
Developing five key skills can do help you raise your EQ. Master the first two skills, and the other three will be much easier to develop.
EQ consists of five key skills, each building on the last:

  • The capability to quickly reduce stress
  • The capability to recognize and manage your emotions
  • The capability to connect with others using nonverbal communication
  • The capability to use humor and play to deal with challenges
  • The capability to resolve conflicts positively and with confidence

Anyone can learn these five skills of emotional intelligence. But you need to do more than study them; you need to apply this knowledge to your life. When you are overwhelmed by stress, the best of intentions can fly out the window.
To permanently alter behavior in ways that stand up under pressure, the key is to learn how to take advantage of the powerful emotional parts of the brain that remain active and accessible even during times of stress. In a nutshell, this means you have to experience and practice these skills in your daily life—you can’t simply read about EQ and expect to master it.
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The elusive quest for happiness

Research on happiness abounds these days – it’s a popular topic. For more than a thousand years, Eastern philosophies have advocated it; now books are being written about it, scientists are busy researching it and an iPhone app has collected data about it.
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Stay right where you are
The big question – how do I get to where I can be happy? As it turns out, there is good news, although it may be mind twisting for some. Happiness is right where you are. Yup, the key to happiness is to be present in the moment, to Be Here Now. As Buddha says, “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”
When we think about the past, it’s usually with regret. We wish we could change what happened or had behaved differently. When we turn to thoughts of the future, we typically are anxious about how events will unfold. We can’t change the past, nor can we control the future. So how do we find the sweet spot of happiness?
Pay attention
Research is being done on how to spot happiness, maintain it and acquire more of it. However, it’s not ‘out there’. External circumstances can’t provide happiness. It has become apparent that our level of joy depends on how present we are in the moment.
Richard Alpert, a Harvard University professor who would later become known as Ram Dass, wrote the book  “Be Here Now” in an attempt to convey a similar message: pay attention. What he realized (and science validates) is that when we are present in our lives, happiness grows. It’s not the flashy car, expensive house or corner office, but simply the ability to fully engage with what is right in front of us.
After completing research and developing an iPhone app to measure moments of happiness (or unhappiness), Harvard grad Matt Killingsworth and his team found the mind of the average individual wanders for 47 per cent of the time. This produces (shortly thereafter) unhappiness.  Afterwards, Killingsworth observed, “A wandering mind is an unhappy mind,”
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Nurture happiness by meditating
Killingsworth’s research underscores why many spiritual and philosophical traditions have always advocated for meditation. Even just a few moments of stillness each day can help by taming the mind. The effects are cumulative — the more one meditates and the mind is quieted, the more easily one can stay in the moment. Watching the breath and sensing the body are two traditional methods for creating awareness in the present.
How to Meditate

  • Don’t try to ‘think of nothing’. If this is your first time mediating, you may not realize you’re not in control of your thoughts.
  • Redirect Your Thoughts. Relax – your mind will wander, it’s normal and part of the ebb and flow. When you can catch your mind wondering, pay attention to the thought. Try not to get engaged thinking the thought but take a step back and notice what you were thinking of and how you feel.
  • Notice Your Body. Focus your attention by noticing everything you can about how your body feels, beginning with the top of your head. Focus your attention on your face, your eyes, how the air feels when you breathe in and out, the tension in your face, and so on. Move your attention down your body towards your feet and focus on each part of your body, noticing how everything feels.
  • Notice Your Breath. If you’ve checked how your body feels and still have more time left begin to pay attention to your breath. Notice how deeply you breathe, how much air is in your lungs, how fast you’re breathing, and so on.

(Source: The Key to happiness)
(Source: Successful Meditation)
Tips to Be Here Now
While it’s possible to be happy, it requires effort, a commitment and deliberate way of being.

  • Be consistently aware of your surroundings and what’s taking place around you.
  • Meditate at least once a day.
  • Clarify what’s important to you – write down your definition of REAL success.
  • Declare each day who you are going to be.

Stay in the present – bring your mind back from the present or future when it begins to wander.
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Goal – An Upset-Free Life

ID-10063200Something goes wrong – a disagreement with a loved one or a conflict at work – and our energy becomes focused on the upsetting situation. Attention may shift from what’s in front of us requiring our concentration or is a moment to be enjoyed, and instead, we dwell on what we perceive to be a threat. We may believe we’re not getting what we think we deserve or that someone has mistreated us. Whatever we perceive the situation to be, negative energy is created. Our thoughts and our conversations revolve around what’s happened and we become distracted; energy is drained and our effectiveness in other areas is reduced.
Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?
Something to think about. It’s human nature to want to be right, to feel vindicated. But in the long-term, does hanging onto your angry or hurt feelings serve you? Digging in your heels, refusing to budge or take the higher road. What purpose will that serve? Yes, you might eventually ‘win’ by having the other person admit they are wrong, but at what cost to you?
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The price of negative energy
There’s a cost to hanging onto your negativity. The loss of inner peace. When you’re in conflict and hanging onto it with fingernails dug in, your serenity and your ability to handle and enjoy the rest of your life is speeding out the door.
The big payoff
You can be happy no matter what your circumstances. It’s a choice. You can make the decision to keep fueling the conflict or you can choose ahead of time not to let life batter you. It’s up to you and it always has been. Gaining mastery over your reaction to what life throws at you is the key to a happy, upset-free life.
What are you going to choose?
Personal mastery is the power to think and act independently of your circumstances!
In the book You Can Be Happy Not Matter What, Richard Carlson writes:
Remember, in a low mood, we will always be able to point to reasons why we feel the way we do and we will be tempted to trust our thoughts. But our thoughts in a low mood will be distorted. “
The Pivotal Technique helps us to master our feelings around our circumstances, dissolving negative energy.
The Pivotal Technique:
Step 1. Describe where you are
Step 2. Describe where you want to be
Step 3. Once again, formally choose the result you want
Step 4. Move on
It’s always a choice – life is made up of many of them. The decisions you make each and every moment determine your peace of mind.
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Resources:
Books:
The Path of Least Resistance by Robert Fritz
Bookclips:
However wanted or unwanted your present circumstances may be, they function as needed feedback so that you can know the current status of the result you are creating.

Going nowhere….fast

I’m not going to shock anyone by stating many of us are on the verge of burnout. In October 2012, the Globe and Mail reported “work-life balance for Canadians is more off kilter than ever. Despite years of warnings about striking work-life balance, Canadians are in a deeper rut than ever. Almost two-thirds of us are working more than 45 hours a week – 50-per-cent more than two decades ago. Work weeks are more rigid, with flex-time arrangements dropping by a third in the past 10 years. To top it off, only 23 per cent of working Canadians are highly satisfied with life. That’s half as many as in 1991.”
(Source: Globe and Mail Work-Life Balance)
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How many hats am I wearing today?
In the workplace, the expectation is that for a minimum of eight hours each day, we will perform our best. For many of us, it’s much more than eight hours. And most of us attempt to do that without doing anything to support us in our efforts, while still carrying out several other roles. We are also parents, spouses, friends, caregivers of elderly relatives and some of us take on volunteer commitments in our communities. On top of all of that, it’s important to take care of our own physical, emotional and mental well-being.
It’s no surprise balance among all these priorities is difficult to achieve, if not impossible. Few of us leave work at the office or forget about our personal lives when we walk out the door in the morning. A high percentage doesn’t take enough vacation time, letting it accrue, in spite of feeling exhausted and desperate for some time off. The fear of letting go of control and the image of the potential disaster awaiting our return seems to outweigh the benefits of relaxation and time away. Most people average between two and six weeks vacation per year with few exceptions; careers last on average 50 years with many exceptions because most people can’t afford to stop working.
A different approach
But here is some information that will surprise you — workplace and business demands far exceed the performance demands placed on professional athletes.
Why? Because the approach they take is holistic. Think about this – professional athletes are perceived as being superbly skilled at what they do, but the reality is they only spend about 10 percent of their time actually engaging in their sport and the other 90 percent of their time training in order to perform. Their entire focus is designed around expanding, sustaining and renewing energy through precise routines and rituals in all areas—eating, sleeping, working out, mental preparation and visualization.
There could be a lesson in this for the rest of us hard-working underachievers. Perhaps it’s time we shifted our own approach to managing our lives. Although it seems counterintuitive, could we reduce stress and burnout by working less and spending more time ‘training’, with the result being increased energy which would lead to being more effective in the hours we spend working?  If we reduced our work hours, could we get more done?
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The Four Dimensions
There are four dimensions that consistently influence our energy levels—physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Typically, many of us push hard in one or two of these areas and not hard enough or completely ignore the others.
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. –Brian Tracy
Why not incorporate this ‘training’ into your life by addressing these four areas of your life to build up energy.
A lack of energy is what drags us all down, causing stress and lowering productivity.
For quick energy renewal, try these tips:

  • Stretch at your desk a couple of times
  • Practice relaxation breathing techniques
  • Get outside at least once a day
  • Sit in silence for a few moments each day
  • Laugh as much as possible
  • Be grateful for the big & small things
  • Express your gratitude
  • Reflect on your day: What was your rose?  What was your thorn? What can you do to make tomorrow even more spectacular?

Resources:
BOOKS:
You Can Be Happy Not Matter What by Richard Carlson
Bookclips:

  • Stress can be a friend – by letting us know beforehand when we are headed away from happiness, away from clear thinking.

Bookclips:

  • Your past, as it actually exists today, is nothing more than the thoughts you have about it.
  • We have choices; in fact, we have a series of “choice points” in any situation.

BOOKS:
Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn
Bookclips:

  • The art of feeling good is not exactly something at which we are highly accomplished, so the goal is to learn how to do it on the spot.
  • Look for anything within the situation, or in your immediate surroundings, to appreciate or feel good about.

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Kool-Aid anyone?

ID-100114184It can be said that leaders are defined by the behaviors of their followers – if yours aren’t willing to crawl over broken glass to work with you, your leadership and your organization may be at risk.
Recent research shows these frightening statistics:

  • Only 29 percent of employees are engaged – that means 71 percent – nearly three quarters of the workforce –  are not engaged or are actively disengaged (source: Gallup Poll)
  • More than 50 percent of the workforce plans to look for a new job once the economy improves
  • 86 percent are working against their natural talents and true nature
  • Up to 70 percent of the population will exit from the workforce within 10 years.

If you take a hard look at your organization, could one or more of these findings represent what’s going on in your company?
How do you make followers of them?
Understand that relationships count more than structure – Anonymous
If you’ve looked at your own situation and can see disconnection is rife in your organization, here are some steps you can take:

  • Connect with your people — engage head and heart
  • Be Deliberate — unplug from the addiction of busyness and be present
  • Make every conversation count — give your employees the experience of being heard, seen and understood so they’re motivated to bring more of themselves to work
  • Be Self-Directed — increase awareness of your own part In the results you see
  • Genuinely invite others to tell you what they’re really thinking — see that your view is only one perspective and that multiple perspectives exist, all of which are true
  • Dare to discuss the ‘undiscussables’– be genuine and vulnerable and let others be real with you so energy goes to what really matters

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Wholehearted leadership
When was the last time someone listened to you whole-heartedly? What difference did that make for you?
Wholehearted leadership means choosing vulnerability and transparency. If we are unwilling to be genuine and authentic, to expose ourselves, meaningful engagement can’t occur.
Be willing to be seen
Stop covering up shortcomings, weakness, doubts and failures. Share more than just your successes. Simply telling our ‘glory stories’ often means sharing what no one else can relate to, meaning nothing is given in the process.
If many of your employees aren’t reaching their potential or have become so dissatisfied they’ve got one eye on the door, changing the way you lead to a more complete and genuine style can make the difference between success and failure for your business.
Behind every great leader are great followers. Help them to move from disenchanted employees to engaged and productive followers.
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BOOKS:
Leadership is an Art – Max Depree
Being Generous – the Art of Right Living
Bookclips:
Generosity, as an exercise of inclusiveness, can help bridge misunderstandings or alienation, and create connections despite disagreements.
We consider generosity a prerequisite for problem solving, and therefore not to be approached casually.
Humility seems passive and unassertive. Yet it takes strength and resilience to tame the ego.

Resources: http://www.inc.com/ss/10-leadership-tips-from-eileen-fisher#0