Failure—it’s a word that strikes fear into most hearts. Failure is a country we don’t ever want to visit. We’ve been socialized to avoid failure at all costs. Our reputation, our self-esteem, our careers, our personal relationships—we believe they are all at risk if we fail. But what if there’s another kind of failure?
What if avoiding failure is failing in itself? If we aren’t willing to take the risk, to put ourselves in the path of potential defeat, is that not another kind of failing? Avoidance can give us the perception of safety and create a shield to hold tight to that we view as dear. Is that how we want to live—hiding, grasping onto what we have for fear of losing it?
Difficult conversations are often perceived as a minefield to be avoided at all costs. But could evading the conversation be considered a failure? Typically, we steer clear of potentially troublesome conversations in the hopes of not having a ‘failed’ conversation.
We’re not designed to handle crucial conversations effectively. Our bodies prepare for fight or flight when we feel threatened by sending blood and adrenaline to our extremities, away from our brains; we don’t think as clearly.
Recognizing the risks and the price of failing to have these conversations is essential to growth on a personal and leadership level. Working through conversations and developing better communications skills ahead of time with a coach or mentor can mean a more genuine, authentic style of approaching these difficult discussions. Even failed conversations can be stepping stones to creating deeper relationships and future success at home and at the office.
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