What Matters Most is How YOU See YOURSELF!
While we have many lenses that we see and experience the world through; the lens that has the strongest hold on us is our self-concept. In other words, the way we see and perceive ourselves dictates how we experience others, ourselves and our life. More often than not, our self-concepts are not perfectly aligned with reality and yet we live as though those views and thoughts (self-concepts) are true, real and unchangeable.
For example a teenage girl thinks she is fat and is in fact anorexic, or a man is driven to provide for his family when in fact, he has more money than what could be spent in 2 lifetimes.
Bracken (1992) suggests the 6 domains related to self-concept are:
Social – the ability to interact with others | Competence – ability to meet basic needs | Affect – awareness of emotional states | Physical – feelings about looks, health, physical condition, and overall appearance | Academic – success or failure in school | Family – how well one functions within the family unit
Self-Perception Awareness Activity: Write a list of the self-concepts you have based on the domains above in the 2 categories we commonly label ourselves and situations as: Positive and Negative.
This exercise expands your understanding and awareness in how you think about and see yourself, enabling you to be deliberate in living in and from empowering self-talk. This fulfills the goal of growing your Emotional Intelligence because creating a new context about yourself, transforms how you show up in the world as you lead and engage in conversations.
Empowering & Positive Self-Concepts: I am… A good listener, Great with people, A happy go lucky person, Dedicated, Enthusiastic
Disempowering & Negative Self-Concepts: I am… Intense, Not a quick thinker, A procrastinator, Shy, Not smart enough
Tune in over the next 3 weeks, to learn about the 3 Self-Perception competencies:
• Self Actualization
• Emotional Self-Awareness
EQ Emotional Intelligence Assessments are based on composites and their competencies. Each week in this series of blogs I will explore a composite or competency and its importance and impact on leadership; and then provide an exercise to help you expand that particular composite or competency. I encourage you to buy a journal for the walk into your greatness, to do the work thoughtfully, and share your discoveries and challenges with me – either through the comments section of this blog or at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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