If change is inevitable, rather than fighting it, let’s lean into it. Easier said than done. How do you change yourself so that you become more open to the variables life throws at you? You’ve recognized life is transient—but how do you go about making the deep changes you need to flow with life as it shows up?
Often what’s holding us back from creating change that lasts more than a few days lies in our core beliefs about life, which are buried deep within our subconscious. Delving deep and discovering what those beliefs are is the key to change. As an example, if you believe life is hard on a subconscious level, likely you will approach life in ways that make it more difficult. But if you’re confident in yourself and your strengths and abilities to cope, your perception of your life will be different. When you have a firm belief that you are capable, the vagaries of life are less daunting.
The beliefs that limit us are different for everyone: “I will never be successful because I’m not powerful enough”, or “I am not worthy of this success”.
Tips on becoming more self-confident
- Write down the fears and doubts you experience.
- Examine these fears and doubts to discover what beliefs are behind them—write these down.
- Once you’ve identified the core beliefs that are sabotaging your success, create a new set of beliefs that reflect how you want to live – write these down. Connect with the fact that you deserve success, that you are powerful enough to create the life you want.
- Visualize your future based on those new beliefs and continue to do so. Act as if you are powerful. Think that you are powerful. Your subconscious can’t tell the different and will incorporate that new belief.
Critical to self-confidence is knowing yourself. When you’ve taken the time for self-exploration and have developed a strong sense of yourself, external conditions diminish in importance.
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Actions that will increase your adaptability to a changing environment:
- Confident people know themselves; specifically they are certain of their strengths. Make a list of both your accomplishments, strengths and your weaknesses to ensure a well-rounded view of yourself. Increasing your knowledge of self allows you to position yourself in ways that utilize your strengths and where your weaknesses are a non-issue.
- Balance your perspective by identifying the complimentary opposites that exist in all situations. Be deliberate in focusing and directing your energy on the aspects that move you forward.
- Practices like meditation, stretching, and visualization are powerful techniques that improve your physiology, emotional, mental and physical state. This increases your ability to capitalize on change.
- Most of know what we don’t like and few know what truly rejuvenates and nurtures us. Explore opportunities with the intention to increase the joy in your life. Take dance lessons, learn a new language, get active and pay attention to what fills you up.
- Clear the way for creativity by recognizing that your self-image may have little to do with who you are and what you can do, yet it is always a precise evaluation of yourself. Your values include attitudes, beliefs, opinions, hopes, fears, and prejudices to name a few and all together this governs how we behave.
Source: Adapting to Change by Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D
A Road Map to Change
We’re often our own worst critics—sometimes realizing our own strength takes someone else to point them out. And we’re often too busy keeping up with work or the rest of our lives to take the time for self-exploration. Working with a coach or another person trained to facilitate this type of work can be valuable.
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