Orange Pants Moment

When I was 13 years old, my mother insisted I wear a pair of orange hand-me-down pants. They were seriously out of fashion and I felt like a giant walking pumpkin. No matter how much I protested, my mother stuck to her guns, ignoring my feelings and wants. Along with feeling isolated, teased and at the centre of negative attention by my peers, I also felt discounted—what I wanted didn’t matter.
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Years later, this ‘orange pants’ experience was one of the things that led  me to the work I do today and to making a point of never discounting anyone.
I could have chosen a different path, one filled with regret and anger, where I stayed stuck in resenting my mother and as often happens, mirroring her behaviour.
Left or right
In any situation we have choices. Everything we feel anger or resentment about is in the past; it doesn’t exist in the present. We can’t change the past, we can’t have a ‘better past’, so what’s left? We can choose to stay stuck in our anger and regret, or we can learn from what happened.
How to release and prevent resentment
When we let go of the past and live in the present, the energy that went into feeding our bitter emotions returns, leaving us feeling more vital and alive. Any negative emotion such as anger or resentment can be toxic and causes us much more harm than others. It’s often said resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
Your ‘orange pants’ experiences
Think back about times in your life that have you still harbouring negative emotions.  How could you learn from them and turn them into a positive experience, making for a better future? What would you do with the increased energy you would have if you were no longer tied to the past?
Rebuilding
If you want to make progress, rebuilding is one choice. The alternative is to continue to try to rewrite the past. Redirect your focus and effort to the future instead of to the past; remove emotional pain and negative thoughts and replace them with positivity. When you integrate what’s happened into new thoughts about who you are at the core, you can use the knowledge gained from the incident to give you inner strength and valuable insight, leading to a more promising future.
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