Success and What It Really Means To You

ID-10041397What is success, really? Perhaps your beliefs about success are based on society’s definition and/or what you were brought up to believe. Is success for you money, prestige, public recognition…or could that be someone else’s view of success?
For many of us, our definition of success is based on a belief system resulting from past conditioning. How you define success may actually be holding you and others back. If you were to take the time to consider your present beliefs about success, you might see the ‘success’ you desire is being achieved at a high cost. The price might be paid in other areas of your life such as relationships, family or health, a cost many of us pay for our achievements.
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Go deep
Take some time to reflect on success and what it means to you. What is REALLY important to you in your life? Is that where most of your attention is being focused? Family may be the most important thing in the world to you, but you may be spending most of your waking hours at work. If so, are you truly successful?
“A successful life is one that is lived through understanding and pursuing one’s own path, not chasing the dream of others.”  -Chin-Ning Chu
Reflecting on your beliefs about success may lead to redefining it. This may be a turning point—where you decide not to let others define it for you. No matter what we’ve achieved, many of us have a natural yearning for something ‘more in our lives’—the desire to be more, do more and have more. We may know what to do, but we aren’t taking the necessary actions to get there—to be healthier, to spend more time with our families, to take our careers to the next level. Often, we get in the way of our desires.
Get out of your own way
In his book “What Got You Here Won’t Get you There”, Marshall Goldsmith, one of the five most respected executive coaches by Forbes and a top-10 executive educator by the Wall Street Journal addresses the fundamental problems that often come with success, naming the 20 habits that hold us back from the top.
You – Reinvented
Perhaps it’s time to start the conversation. What do you want out of life? Really want out of life? This can be an opportune time to work with a coach to dig deep to get at your beliefs and explore them. And perhaps to redefine them.
Related: Simply More is a Business Consultant in Calgary specializing in executive coaching, team facilitation, and leadership training.

BOOKS:
What Got You Here Won’t Get You There – Marshall Goldsmith
Bookclips: The only natural law I’ve witnessed in three decades of observing successful people’s efforts to become more successful is this: People will do something-including changing their behavior-only if it can be demonstrated that doing so is in their own best interests as defined by their own values.
Bookclips: Take a look at work. Why are you there? What keeps you coming back day after day? Is it any of the big four-money, power, status, popularity-or is it something deeper and more subtle that has been developed over time?
Success Intelligence – Robert Holden
Bookclips: Relationships are the heart of success. How true is this for you?
Bookclips: If you cannot see yourself being successful at something, you will probably talk yourself out of trying. Or, if you can see you have a talent for something, you may find all sorts of inner strength and external help. All your decisions are based on what you see you are capable of and, also, what you think you deserve.
Resources/Articles:
What is Success – A Better Definition: http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/what-is-success-better-definition.html
Questions that Create Success: http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/10-questions-that-create-success.html
Steve Jobs explains the rules for success: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KuNQgln6TL0